How To: Set A Table
I think that there are pros and cons to living in such an informal world. I think back to the “good old days” where people got dressed up out of respect no matter the event. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to be dressed up all the time, and I can’t imagine making dinner every night in a full skirt and heels. My point being, there is always a time and a place for a formal table setting. I thought I would walk you through the difference between a formal and informal setting. Knowing that my informal setting is now more formal than most.
I love to set the table when having family and friends over for dinner. Whether it is a formal or informal occasion, I think it is such a lovely way to welcome people into your home and make them feel special. When having a meal at a beautifully set table, the act of having the meal becomes more of an experience. Food is not only enjoyed by taste but also by sight; it’s a full package deal. Something I have learned a lot about through owning restaurants.
Above is an example of an informal table setting. An informal setting is going to give you a little more creativity and is not as restrictive as a formal setting. I know that it is already much more formal than most are use to. This is generally as formal as my table gets. It may look like a lot, but it's fairly easy to execute. It should, for the most part, be things you already have in your everyday place setting.
An informal setting is going to be used for a 3-course meal or less. When you break that down, most times you host in your home you will have salad, entree, and dessert. That there is your 3-courses! Other courses often included in a less formal setting are appetizer and soup. This setting is going to be used for most casual gatherings of family and friends. Ok, a few rules of an informal table.
Utensils are placed in the order they will be used. Working from the outside in.
Forks go on the left-hand side. Spoons and knives are on the right.
Knife blade should face the plate.
Last and most important, only set out what you will use. If you are not serving soup, you do not need to set out the soup sop for show; homegirl can stay in the drawer.
Cloth napkins are a must.
Ok, so this pretty girl is going to be used for anything more than a 3-course meal. This will be for more formal holidays, dinner parties, weddings, and any random Tuesday you need a pick me up and want to feel fancy. Now where this gets tricky is most of us do not have individual salt and peppers for 12. Don’t worry, it’s not just you; I also do not! If your formal setting is lacking supplies, my two favorite sources are your local rental company and Pottery Barn’s caterers line. For rentals: call ahead, order what you need, and then send it back. Renting costs way less than buying everything, you will not have to store it, and you don’t even have to wash the dishes…. that’s right, when you rent, you return them DIRTY!!! Cue gif of Opraha with arms out saying AHHHHHHHH! Now I understand that the formal setting seems like a lot more work. The idea behind it is that every guest has everything they need for the evening right in front of them. This will save you from having to continually get someone something they may need. Courses included in this setting would be hors d’oeuvres, soup, fish, entree, salad, cheese, palate cleanser (This is generally sorbet. Who does not want sorbet in-between meals!!), Coffee and dessert. Tips for a formal setting
Utensils are placed in the order they will be used. Working from the outside in.
Forks go on the left-hand side. Spoons and knives are on the right.
Knife blade should face the plate.
This setting requires lines. A table cloth/runner and a napkin. It also needs a placemat or charger.
You will need appropriate glassware for whatever you are serving. Champagne needs a fluted glass, red and white wine needs their own glass.
You must clear each course as they are finished.
Technically, the host should not be serving the food. You would bring in a cater or server to do it. This seems a little silly to me, being the independent "do-it-myself" woman I am. So do with this one as you wish.
The end goal is to create something beautiful that will help set you up for a fun and memorable evening with family and friends. My love language is to create. I want to create a space that makes people feel loved and welcome. I want them to walk in and know that this beautiful setting and the meal I have created is to show my love and gratitude for them. (But also that this mama is down to have a good time! My next setting will show you where to place the jello shots on the table!!) Now go; eat, drink, and be merry but only in small groups of 6 or less. ;)
Cheers Babes
XOXO
